A child does not ask a parent or a teacher what is the correct way to play games. It just plays.
Anxiously asking the "grown ups" how to play it out of fear of doing it wrong is not gonna make you enjoy playing.
I think mathematics should be taught more like music or arts in schools. We don't "do" it or "learn" it, we "play" it.
We fool around with it blindly until we find something awesome. Like kids, or teenagers, or artists.