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comment How do I help our 3/yo go through the stress of my wife and myself living separately
@Bobo: And I didn't say you said this. :) I'm, however, concerned for all the praise this answer gets, which assumes they have not yet tried everything, and then doesn't even answer the question.
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answered My Granddaughter is 8 and is having trouble sleeping. She seems to have a lot of unfounded fears and I am worried about her
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comment Letting a newborn sleep - bassinet or full-sized baby bed?
Meanwhile, though, I had a few babies to deal with, and IME some of them slept better when they were surrounded by boundaries. We had one similar to this (but much longer, about 2mtr) and put this into the top of the bed. The bed was next to ours. Two of my children definitely slept better this way.
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comment Letting a newborn sleep - bassinet or full-sized baby bed?
@Little: I have been around a while, and I remember phases when it was recommended to lay babies on their bellies, on their sides, and on their backs. (My father refers to this as "the rotation of the babies".) The current phase is recommending lying on the back, but I fully assume that this will change while you live. That is how the scientific method works, after all, and I fully approve of it.
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comment How do I help our 3/yo go through the stress of my wife and myself living separately
If parents divorcing would have such serious effects as you assume, Germany would be a country full of murderers, rapers, and child molesters. Which obviously it is not. (Our homicide rate is a fraction of the one in the U.S.) So it seems live does go on for kids after a marriage. Yes, there's new challenges and problems. But unhappy married couples provide plenty of those, too. Plus, this does have upsides: For example, I see that my older kids are much more accepting of different (strange) ways of life than their peers. When asked, my oldest said: "Because I grew up in 2 families!"
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comment How do I help our 3/yo go through the stress of my wife and myself living separately
As to the bad effects of broken marriages: Here in Germany, half of all marriages are divorced. So when you marry, you have a 50% chance that it won't last. Many of those couples will have children. In addition to that, marriage isn't as common here as it is, e.g., in the U.S., so you need to take into account many, many more children that live with parents which are not married. There is no reason to assume that fewer of those couples break up than of the married couples. I conclude that about half the German kids will have to go through their parents' breakup at one point in their lives.
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comment How do I help our 3/yo go through the stress of my wife and myself living separately
@Bobo: Why not assume that others see this a priority, too, that they are focused on it, and that they work hard to fix things – and and it still didn't work out? I mean, who would not try to fix a relationship gone bad? How many people who committed to having children would prefer the hassle of livelong parenting without the love in a relationship over a working relationship? In my answers I mention that fixing the relationship is better, and then assume they are responsible adults and move on to the advice they seek.
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comment How do I help our 3/yo go through the stress of my wife and myself living separately
@user: Statistics also say it's better for your health to ride your bike to work than drive your car. And how do you get to work? Their dad being healthy is good for your kids, you know. But that aside, is it so hard to acknowledge that a marriage might not be salvageable? What if they already tried everything you'd suggest? Just try again, because it might work the second time? What if his wife ran away with some other guy? How should he go about fixing this? Whatever, you will have to accept that sometimes the best solution isn't available. Then the second-best solution needs to be found.
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comment Why does (i|o)fstream take a const char* parameter for a file name?
@Johannes: This wasn't overlooked. I remember discussions about it on clc++m in the 90s.
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comment Why does (i|o)fstream take a const char* parameter for a file name?
The idea that nobody thought about it back then is plainly wrong. To the contrary, this was extensively discussed in the 90s and later. It's just that, back then, nobody came up with a proposal that turned the opinion of enough people who had a vote in the standardization committee. Probably the most prominent arguments against it back then was that streams should be usable without <string>. I disagreed back then, and still do, but I have to admit that the argument has some merits.
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comment Letting a newborn sleep - bassinet or full-sized baby bed?
@Ida: Thanks, some of those are certainly pretty close to the one we made!
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comment Letting a newborn sleep - bassinet or full-sized baby bed?
@Little: If that was the case, there would be nowhere where you could lay down a child to sleep, because anything you could lay it on might block its nose/mouth. IME a baby will lift its head and turn it to the other side if it can't get air. If this doesn't help, it will keep struggling. If the baby sleeps close to you, then you will wake up from the struggle.
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comment How do I help our 3/yo go through the stress of my wife and myself living separately
And what is if the child behaves the way she does because they were fighting all the time? What is if the breakup actually helps to solve that problem? What if staying together would make it worse?
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