Most importantly, do not lie to yourself. The man who lies to himself and listens to his own lie comes to what really is no truth either in himself or does not distinguish between the terms and, therefore, is a lack of respect for self and others.
Not respecting the same one ceases to love, and to love without having to occupy and entertain themselves, indulges passions and rude sweets and comes quite up to bestiality in his vices ...
Dostoevsky. The Brothers Karamazov